sexta-feira, 25 de julho de 2014

WHERE DO WE BELONG, ANYWAY? By Carolina

We're on vacation, the desired holidays in our home country, back home. Fortunately we managed to come to Brazil every year since we plunged into the overseas adventure ...

It's so nice being back! I feel I come to recharge batteries, find the inspiration to return and face the many challenges of my nomadic life. Back to see the family, the places where we lived for so many years! I love to buy country products, here, where they have a special taste and the right appearance of being in their real context!  I spend the year dreaming about these back to origins days, where I can be myself without any kind of embarrassment, where I am not afraid to seek the unknown, where I can talk without fear of making mistakes... I feel 100% confident in these visits home!

Home?  Is it still home?  Where do we belong, anyway?  Where is our home? Will we, the 5 family members, get to name the same place as "home"? After all these years living outside Brazil, experiencing so many different countries, where do we belong? What is the true weight of citizenship in our subjective identification?

To be honest, I love coming back, longing for that feeling of confidence and security that seizes me whenever I step into my country. I am Brazilian, no doubt! Heart and soul! But, my home is not here anymore... I am a Brazilian foreigner, visiting homeland. I come on vacation to my country but I’m on the run. I'm not from here anymore... I love coming back - however, I'm glad to know I have some other place waiting for me. I'm relaxed (secretly glad) on going back to my comfort zone, which is in another place and is always changing... It‘s so strange, so very hard to admit! Home is where I live most of the year with my husband and my children. Home is where I live day to day with the joys and sorrows common to all life. Yes, home is where I have my life as a whole... wherever part of the world that is. The feeling of calm and tranquility, comfort and familiarity I feel at home... where I live… very far away from here...

How wise is life! How many "lessons"! And how many rounds I did to realize it... The place is important no more: ceases to be the moment we begin the effort to adapt to new cultures, new places, and new ways of being. We all changed and there is no "going back" because even if we return one day to Brazil, we accumulated experience that makes us different from those who never left and which we cannot and will not erase. If we do go back we’ll have to do a new adaptation effort, who knows if even more awkward and difficult... Living the crazy expatriation adventure in more than one country forces the family to open up to the outside, but simultaneously to close under the protective shell of its own identity. Home is no longer a physical space, because that is always changing; home are we, individuals, those remaining (the 5). And this home now belongs to the world, no longer fits in a country; even if as big as Brazil... borders lost its significance ...

This revelation has to be well kept: How would my family and my old time friends ever understand? How to forgive this “betrayal? How to grasp with the fact there’s no room for me here as all of them followed on with their lives and I feel they are different and further away… I understand this and plainly accept it. I still keep them preciously saved in a corner of my heart: not replacing them... just broadening the horizon. They are my roots, my foundations. I just continued to grow, adding more pillars. And they, what will they do with me? Is the feeling mutual?


Carolina

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